The Love Party: Celebrating the Downfall of DOMA

Yesterday was a special monumental day in American history. The Supreme Court overturned the portion of DOMA that was preventing gay and lesbian couples from having access to the same federal protections that heterosexual couples have always been entitled to. Prop 8 also had a favorable out come as well, ruling the ban on gay marriage unconstitutional in California. This brings the total to thirteen states + Washington DC who now support equality and recognize gay marriage. When my feet hit the floor yesterday morning I was ready to celebrate. I couldn’t wipe the smile off of my face all day. I wanted to hug someone! Luckily I wasn’t the only person in my town that felt that way and a Human Rights Celebration was thrown together in a matter of hours. Hosted by my PFLAG chapter and held at a local coffee shop, the celebration consisted of American and rainbow flags and a growing crowd of elated supporters. The local media arrived to interview PFLAG members and lots of hugs were exchanged. This was a joyous occasion, everyone there felt the unity that such a victory brings. (I can’t imagine how awesome it would have been to be in Washington D.C. yesterday!)


My S.O. and I took the kids to the party and all four of us had a great time.

“We’re going to a party!?” My two year old Princes loves a party. “What kind of party, Mama?”

How does one explain to their young child the significance of a day like this? How do I detail to her the impact that the downfall of DOMA will have on generations to come? How do I tell her that because of this Supreme Court ruling the way has been paved for hundred of thousands of LGBT couples to be given the validity and recognition that all married couples should be afforded? How can I make her understand that over 40,000 other kids in the state of California will now have legally recognized families? How do I teach her about the pain and the anguish that so many have suffered leading up to this day? How do I show her that now our dear friends and family can solidify their commitments to one another and join in marriage?

I paused for a moment.

“Princess, we are going to a love party.  Because today the people that make the rules decided that it is okay for people to love anyone that they want.”

“A LOVE party! Well, I love you… and Daddy… and my Baby Brother!”

Perfect. For her two year old little mind, that was all the explanation that she needed. At the innocent age of two my daughter can plainly see that love is love.  And that’s all that matters.


Our PFLAG chapter is thankful to our local news station for the positive media coverage that we were given! Here is a link to our clip of the Human Rights news coverage from the nightly news. Read here for the article run in our local paper. Click here to read this article on Huffington Post. 

Giving my first interview for PFLAG!
Giving my first interview for PFLAG!

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